Outwitting the Manipulator
Manipulation doesn't announce itself. It shows up mid-sentence, mid-meeting, mid-argument — and by the time you realize what happened, it's over.
Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski — communication experts with 50+ years of combined experience — break down the tactics manipulators use and hand you specific, practical techniques to respond in real time. No therapy-speak. No "just set boundaries" advice that sounds great on paper and falls apart the second someone pushes back.
Each episode tackles a specific manipulation tactic — gaslighting, shame, trust erosion, reframing, and more — and gives you the language and strategy to hold your ground while it's happening. Not after. Not in hindsight. Right now, in the moment.
Whether it's a coworker, a partner, a family member, or someone you can't walk away from, this show teaches you to recognize the play and change the outcome.
You can't change the manipulator. You CAN change the outcome.
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Episodes
Oct 6, 2023
Oct 6, 2023
26 min
Robin and Dennis welcome Simon, who shares his story of a challenging childhood fraught with manipulation.
Aug 29, 2023
Aug 29, 2023
29 min
Robin and Dennis address the odious fear of speaking, a very common problem at the top of almost everyone's list.
Jul 25, 2023
Jul 25, 2023
23 min
Rich, a former CPA, joins the show to discuss inauthenticity and manipulation in the business world.
Jul 10, 2023
Jul 10, 2023
19 min
Inertia. What has that got to do with manipulation? Inertia is a human condition that's very common, and it's when you're stuck. It's not moving forward. It's not doing anything. You cycle through life. Sometimes you're active and productive. Other times you experience inertia throughout the day. Robin and Dennis discuss the intersection of intertia and manipulation.
Jun 26, 2023
Jun 26, 2023
28 min
Alison Kurt joins the show with an open and honest account of her experiences with a narciissist.
Jun 26, 2023
Jun 26, 2023
23 min
When is a compliment not a compliment? When it is backhanded -- and thus a tool of manipulation. Robin and Dennis discuss.
Jun 26, 2023
Jun 26, 2023
31 min
Dennis and Robin hear a tale shared by Vanessa, a young target of manipulation.
May 17, 2023
May 17, 2023
27 min
Communication is a good thing -- until it is used for manipulation. Robin & Dennis discuss.
May 17, 2023
May 17, 2023
26 min
Dennis and Robin explain what "love bombing" is -- then hear a real example of it with guest Lolya Pushak.
Apr 18, 2023
Apr 18, 2023
23 min
Are you complicit in your own manipulation? Robin and Dennis discuss what you need to know.