Outwitting the Manipulator
Manipulation doesn't announce itself. It shows up mid-sentence, mid-meeting, mid-argument — and by the time you realize what happened, it's over.
Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski — communication experts with 50+ years of combined experience — break down the tactics manipulators use and hand you specific, practical techniques to respond in real time. No therapy-speak. No "just set boundaries" advice that sounds great on paper and falls apart the second someone pushes back.
Each episode tackles a specific manipulation tactic — gaslighting, shame, trust erosion, reframing, and more — and gives you the language and strategy to hold your ground while it's happening. Not after. Not in hindsight. Right now, in the moment.
Whether it's a coworker, a partner, a family member, or someone you can't walk away from, this show teaches you to recognize the play and change the outcome.
You can't change the manipulator. You CAN change the outcome.
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Episodes
Mar 23, 2023
Mar 23, 2023
25 min
Becky Norwood, the founder of Spotlight Publishing, shares her story of a childhood marred by the manipulation of her father.
Feb 28, 2023
Feb 28, 2023
27 min
Robin and Dennis are back for Season 2 and once again talking about manipulation and how you can protect yourself from being manipulated while it's happening.
Dec 28, 2022
Dec 28, 2022
39 min
Robin and Dennis wrap up season 1 by discussing the importance of listening -- and share six active-listening techniques that anyone can use.
Dec 21, 2022
Dec 21, 2022
42 min
In earlier episodes Robin and Dennis addressed the tactics that the manipulator does to you. Now they reveal techniques that you can use against the manipulator to protect yourself as it's happening. For all of the resources mentioned in this episode please visit https://www.outwitinrealtime.com/
Dec 14, 2022
Dec 14, 2022
34 min
The topic is non-verbal approval and disapproval, or the manipulative tactics of "paralanguage," all of those moments where you are actually communicating without talking.
Dec 7, 2022
Dec 7, 2022
38 min
Dennis and Robin discuss gaslighting; the creation of self-doubt; and reframing past events, three of the tactics manipulators often use.
Nov 30, 2022
Nov 30, 2022
36 min
Two tactics that have huge consequences for your mindset: Invalidation and dictating feelings. For more info on Robin and Dennis please visit: www.outwitinrealtime.comFor the book Outwitting the Manipulator: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1953806244/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_S8YEHV3QCZD3AQ2P0RP9?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Nov 23, 2022
Nov 23, 2022
32 min
In this episode Robin and Dennis discuss three common tactics used in manipulation: "love bombing"; calculation and planning; and hurt and rescue.
Nov 16, 2022
Nov 16, 2022
32 min
Robin and Dennis tackle the contextual tactics of the manipulator and their use of surrogates. For more info on Robin and Dennis please visit: www.outwitinrealtime.comFor the book Outwitting the Manipulator: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1953806244/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_S8YEHV3QCZD3AQ2P0RP9?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Nov 9, 2022
Nov 9, 2022
30 min
Robin and Dennis discuss the five most common methods of manipulation in conversation, how they are used in concert, and how to escape them. For more info on Robin and Dennis please visit: www.outwitinrealtime.comFor the book Outwitting the Manipulator: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1953806244/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_S8YEHV3QCZD3AQ2P0RP9?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1