Friday Apr 19, 2024

Murdering the Messenger

In this episode Robin and Dennis guide listeners on how to navigate situations where they observe someone they care about being manipulated. The concept of 'murdering the messenger' is discussed, emphasizing the idea that trying to help can sometimes lead to backlash, especially in sensitive relational dynamics like coercion or manipulation, making the helper a new target. The episode covers strategies to intervene without escalating the situation, such as interjection, distraction, and the use of a surrogate to deliver messages indirectly. Furthermore, it touches on the importance of listening and being open to feedback for those who may be targets of manipulation. Practical advice is provided for dealing with coercive control, especially in relationships involving young people who are highly susceptible due to their desire to belong. The hosts share personal anecdotes and emphasize the importance of approaching these delicate situations with care to avoid 'murdering the messenger' and potentially harming the relationship further.

You can find the book, Outwitting the Manipulator, on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Outwitting-Manipulator-Protecting-Yourself-Real-Time/dp/1953806244

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Topics:

01:09 Introducing the Topic: Navigating Manipulation

01:21 Understanding the Dynamics of Manipulation

01:47 The Impact of 'Murdering the Messenger' in Relationships

04:56 Exploring the Role of the Messenger

05:40 The Challenge of Being a Bystander

12:30 Guidance for Messengers: When and How to Intervene

14:41 Techniques for Effective Intervention